Comments on: on giving http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/ birth, parenting, midwifery, doula Wed, 30 Dec 2009 01:38:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: erin http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1273 Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:25:55 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1273 oh sweet... goodness, your heart is so big and beautiful. it breaks my heart to know that you were taken advantage of- but as you said in the beginning-a hand that reaches out asking for it might be in need of help in more ways than we can fathom. i completely agree with your last paragraph as well... that if you would have left-said nope, sorry! and driven off-you would have worried and wondered and felt crushed, and hurt all day for not knowing what you could have turned away... i imagine that there's guilt, maybe shame-for not listening to sticky instincts that say 'hey..something isn't right here..' but i think that what you did, the entire situation-was incredibly honourable and brave. who knows.. perhaps they were being honest-and simply taking advantage of your generosity while they had it. xox oh sweet…
goodness, your heart is so big and beautiful.
it breaks my heart to know that you were taken advantage of- but as you said in the beginning-a hand that reaches out asking for it might be in need of help in more ways than we can fathom.
i completely agree with your last paragraph as well… that if you would have left-said nope, sorry! and driven off-you would have worried and wondered and felt crushed, and hurt all day for not knowing what you could have turned away…

i imagine that there’s guilt, maybe shame-for not listening to sticky instincts that say ‘hey..something isn’t right here..’
but i think that what you did, the entire situation-was incredibly honourable and brave.

who knows.. perhaps they were being honest-and simply taking advantage of your generosity while they had it.
xox

]]> by: Marie http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1266 Fri, 26 Jun 2009 04:56:38 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1266 This totally resonated with me. Who hasn't felt that bit of distrust when we wanted to just be trusting and get the warm fuzzies from helping others? Thank you for sharing this odd situation. This totally resonated with me. Who hasn’t felt that bit of distrust when we wanted to just be trusting and get the warm fuzzies from helping others? Thank you for sharing this odd situation.

]]> by: flutter http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1257 Tue, 23 Jun 2009 05:17:56 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1257 I find this refreshingly honest I find this refreshingly honest

]]> by: maggie, dammit http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1256 Tue, 23 Jun 2009 04:00:03 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1256 Wow. I can't tell you how pleased I am to make your acquaintance. I think you have to do what you do, without making a judgment. Be you, give as you are comfortable, not knowing/caring whether or not you are being taken advantage of. Do what lets you sleep at night. Does that make sense? Gorgeous post. Wow. I can’t tell you how pleased I am to make your acquaintance.

I think you have to do what you do, without making a judgment. Be you, give as you are comfortable, not knowing/caring whether or not you are being taken advantage of. Do what lets you sleep at night. Does that make sense?

Gorgeous post.

]]> by: slouchy http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1255 Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:25:10 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1255 oh. my husband and i had something very similar happen to us at a gas station. we ended up giving twenty dollars, all the while thinking something was off, but not wanting to make that judgment in case we were wrong. we ended up feeling foolish. but there are worse things than feeling foolish. oh. my husband and i had something very similar happen to us at a gas station. we ended up giving twenty dollars, all the while thinking something was off, but not wanting to make that judgment in case we were wrong.

we ended up feeling foolish. but there are worse things than feeling foolish.

]]> by: thordora http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1254 Mon, 22 Jun 2009 06:42:38 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1254 Sadly, I just walk away now, and try and filter my efforts through places I know are legit. I just can't do it, and hate that others prey on the good intentions of the average person, who is good and kind. Sadly, I just walk away now, and try and filter my efforts through places I know are legit. I just can’t do it, and hate that others prey on the good intentions of the average person, who is good and kind.

]]> by: Monica C. http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1253 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 23:06:08 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1253 Wow. I'm sorry that happened to you, that "it" has happened to us all. I feel mad and sad all at the same time! Wow. I’m sorry that happened to you, that “it” has happened to us all. I feel mad and sad all at the same time!

]]> by: Rebekah http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1252 Tue, 26 May 2009 17:15:45 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1252 Wow. What an experience. Positive and incredibly uncomfortable, all rolled into one. Wow. What an experience. Positive and incredibly uncomfortable, all rolled into one.

]]> by: mb http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1250 Mon, 18 May 2009 23:29:34 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1250 sometimes following our instincts does not lead to good feelings. i think you did follow your instincts here. scam or no scam? whose to say. nor does it matter? this lovely work of yours lands under my eyes when i question something similiar, different yet the same. thank you my friend. mb sometimes following our instincts does not lead to good feelings. i think you did follow your instincts here. scam or no scam? whose to say. nor does it matter?

this lovely work of yours lands under my eyes when i question something similiar, different yet the same. thank you my friend.

mb

]]> by: janis http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1249 Mon, 18 May 2009 07:33:01 +0100 http://crunchy.blogsome.com/2009/05/15/on-giving/#comment-1249 I agree, this is stunning. This is beautiful, honest, and inspiring. That was a very tricky situation to have one caught in, but I think you handled it great, and more importantly, your rumination after sparkles. Thank you so much for sharing. xoxo I agree, this is stunning. This is beautiful, honest, and inspiring.
That was a very tricky situation to have one caught in, but I think you handled it great, and more importantly, your rumination after sparkles. Thank you so much for sharing. xoxo

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